Ask Sista Girl – July 2018

Dear Sista Girl:

This month, I am writing to my inner self.

I am struggling with the fact I am surrounded by takers or that I have allowed takers in my inner circle and they are stealing pieces of me every day.

I need to resolve these issues. When you are constantly offering advice to others, you do not seek it for yourself. I often encounter people who do not have anything for me, not a greeting or smile, but want my knowledge, time, money, skills, and/or possessions. People act as though you have nothing better to do than to serve them, to supply their every whim at all times of the day.

What would you tell someone seeking advice?

My Sista Girl,

It sounds like you are tired of always sharing.

Some things, like knowledge, you cannot keep to yourself. It was meant to share, to pay forward. It is selfish to hoard experiences, pitfalls, or your education. If you can save another person hardship or suffering, you have to do your part to impart wisdom.

When it comes to lending money and possessions, I would say boundaries need to be set with the people requesting assistance. Let it be known that you are not a banking center or the local hardware store. At some point, people should purchase the necessary items to maintain their lifestyle and not spend their money on unnecessary things. By all means if the person is doing the best they can with their resources, help them. If not, learn to say no.

For those who do not have a kind word, gesture or smile, give them what they give … nothing. You don’t have to be rude, inconsiderate or unkind, just go the other way. Once you stop giving people or animals what they want, they go away. Tell them if it is something they can do for themselves, don’t ask. Do it yourself!

~ Sista Girl

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