Ask Sista Girl – October 2019

Dear Sista Girl:

What is the right framework for a relationship?

I seem to give more than I’m getting back in return. Help me understand what I should be looking for.

My Sista,

Pulling back is never a bad thing.

This allows you time to assess your worth, your self-esteem, and assure that you are in a good place mentally. Being alone in this process is often a good thing.

There’s never a clear delineation of a 50/50 partnership in a relationship, although each partner should try to give the best they can, when they can.

If you find that you’re falling in the negative, then you need to pull back and assess the situation. When we get to a moment of desperation and lack self-esteem we often give more—way more than we should.

When you take that moment to pull back and assess your relationships you’ll be surprised who comes out of the woodwork to beg for your attention.

I would be remiss if I failed to mention the book, Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov. This book offers direct and explicit hands-on tools that one can incorporate immediately. It sounds like this is exactly what you need to discover and employ some tactics to rescue you, and protect yourself in any future relationships.

Please keep me posted on how everything works out.

~ Sista Girl



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