Ask Sista Girl – March 2018

Dear Sista Girl:

I’m dating a professed eternal bachelor.

His baby mama burned him and put a bad taste in his mouth. Now he says he’s not ever getting married. We’ve been together for five years and lived together for the last three. We enjoy a good home life, raising our children together.

The sad part is that I love him and want to get married. What should I do?

My Sista,

Don’t fool yourself. He has told you everything you need to know. He’s not going to marry you. No matter how much love you think you’re making or good food you’re feeding him, a proposal is not on the horizon. Why should he get married when you’re already playing house? I’m sure you’re giving him everything he wants, when he wants it, because you’re hoping he’ll change his mind.

To quote the movie, “GET OUT”! If he has told you that the relationship is not going to progress any further, believe him. Oftentimes, we don’t believe others when they show us their true selves. We trick ourselves into believing we have more than we really do. Ask yourself, do you just want to be married because it is the right thing to do instead of shackin’ up, or do you want to be his wife for life? If it is the latter, call his bluff. Leave. If he truly wants you in his life and can’t live without you, he’ll ask you to marry him. If he doesn’t, move on. Let him use someone who wants to be used.

Don’t waste your best years waiting for a miracle. Use your limited, but precious time on earth rearing smart, productive, and independent children, and enjoying the things you like. Best wishes.

     ~ Sista Girl

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