Ask Sista Girl – May 2016

Sista Girl:

I am in a relationship, but he is not as committed as I desire him to be.

When I ask him why, he responds, “I care about you, but this is the best I can do for now.”

What does that mean? Should I not pursue this relationship any longer?

My Sista,

First of all, spend your time with someone that wants to BE in a relationship.

Not all people are ready for long-term relationships. If he says this is the best he can do, perhaps what he is saying is, “This is the best I’m willing to do.”

Perhaps there are personal issues he’s not willing to share, or ready to bring you in on. So keep in mind—trust must be earned.

Just because he cannot currently give you the time you desire doesn’t mean it will not happen. If he is aware of how you feel about him and he continues to push back, then talking about this issue with him is in order. If this does not work for you and you desire a more committed long-term relationship, then go with your instincts: if they tell you it’s time to move on, then move on.

I firmly believe that if it is meant to be, it will be. In any case, whatever challenges you are having with the person in the relationship, go to that person, not your friends, or his friends, to handle it.

Attempt to work it out between the two of you.

~ Sista Girl

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