The Best Man

Chatting with Cathy – June 2013

by Cathy James

Every woman wants a good man. Given the numbers, those chances are slim, so we need to work with what we have. Women, don’t fret! There are ways that a man can improve his appeal.

Men, I know most of you feel that you are perfectly acceptable and attractive as you are. However, the advice I am offering in this article is not for your outer appearance, but rather your inner self.

First: a good man is always good to his mother, but there is nothing attractive about a “mama’s boy.” Take responsibility for yourself and go to college, get a job and your own place to live, and buy your own clothes and shoes. Don’t go from your mama’s or parent’s house to your girl’s place. Get off the breast!

If you have taken vows of marriage with a woman and have a family, please care for your family as your parent(s) cared for you. Don’t put your mother’s needs before your wife and children! Your mother will always be an important part of your life, but allow other family members and siblings to share in her interest. Your mother’s every whim is not your sole responsibility.

Second: real men raise self-confident children. Real men wear their pants around their waist, and they work for, love, and take care of their families. Your wife and children shouldn’t have to bail you out of jail, pick you up off the floor, run into you on the street, or hustle for their food and shelter. Be an example for your children to follow. By the way, a good man is respectful and careful about the company he keeps and doesn’t scatter his essence everywhere.

Third: in life, we all have commitments. Our commitments may vary: fraternities, careers, best friends, chaos, or drama – yes, men DO have drama! That is why it is essential to have a balance between work, social life, and love. Too much of either can lead to the loss or excess of one or the other. When setting an example, don’t wait to marry your baby’s mama so the children and grandchildren can attend the wedding.

Lastly, good relationships require sacrifice. Give back or pay it forward. Good men are not selfish or cheap. Men, don’t give money when time is preferred. Whatever is needed, give more than expected when little is required. Remember, important relationships are always worth saving, so apologize or compromise. Do whatever it reasonably takes to say that your significant other is important to you.

Be The Best Man!

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