Growing Boys to Men – the Role of a Woman

Often in this day, women play the role of the father as well as the mother.

By Wanda Hawthorne

We take our sons to the barbershop, take care of minor aches and pains, teach them how to choose the friends in their life, and instill in them common courtesies like opening the door for a woman, carrying the groceries, and pumping gas.

We must encourage them to do what’s right, and to assist with chores like taking out the trash, keeping their room clean, and washing clothes. Washing clothes is the really tough one when they believe their future girlfriends will do the task!
Their idea of what life will be like in the future is a dream, but it is our responsibility to put some reality into the equation—and into their heads.

We as women should teach our young men how to cook, to be a survivor,
and to be self-sufficient. After all, as women, we love men who can
cook, don’t mind cleaning, and are willing to take care of the house; we
handle the rest.

If you’re wondering, “What else is left?” let me say that we are there
to support our family and give love to a loved one as well as that
stranger on the street. We are often busy in the church and our
community doing what is right to make a difference in our community. As
the Bible says (Proverbs 22:6), if you train up a child in the way he
should go, when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Ladies, let me tell you that raising a child does not come with a
manual; however, God has given us the Bible. We need to seek God’s
guidance as we are called to be mothers of our sons. We must stay in
constant prayer seeking God’s guidance in our life and anointing in our
homes. We must stop letting our young men make decisions about their
lives at an early age, for they don’t know what is best for them.

I recall my son not wanting to attend his school’s afterschool program;
however, I pushed the issue and now, he hates to miss it: he is bored
when he can’t attend. A major reward that comes with attendance is, he
receives assistance with his homework, and this has brought his grades
up significantly. We have to push our boys to try new things to gain
positive experiences in their life. We are the women, the mentors who
have been given the charge.

Rise! Rise, women to fulfill your calling. The reward for your diligence
will be seen as your son’s future becomes the bright success that
motivated the work to begin with.